I'm in a long distance relationship, should I tell my boyfriend I fell for someone else?

I took several years with my boyfriend and I love him very much. Each decided to study abroad during the second half of our third year of college and ended up at opposite ends of the planet. We will be separated for nearly six months and only have intermittent access to telephone and internet. Before we left, we agreed it would be best to open our relationship temporarily. We wanted to make the most our experiences and try to seize the opportunity to be with other people. We chose not to speak of our adventures, at least until we returned. I think we established because we relied on the implicit assumption that no one else enamoraríamos us.

Although I was the one who was more anxious before leaving, now I find myself in a somewhat difficult situation. I'm falling in love with a woman I met on my exchange program. I know that there is a casual adventure and now feel a real bond with this woman. I feel like I'm betraying my boyfriend and I'm sure he would also like feel, although I'm not technically breaking the rules of our relationship. Phone calls have good quality and the idea of ​​talking to my boyfriend about it as the signal comes and goes is a bit shocking. I know this would hurt him a lot and you may not enjoy both the remainder of the semester. At the same time, I know he did not have this in mind when we agreed to open up the relationship and feel like I'm cheating on him every time we speak. Should I tell what's going on? -Anonymous

Commitments have rewards. They can keep living situations like yours. Agreeing to have an "open" relationship for a while carries risks. If you had considered the exclusive partner of your boyfriend, you may had not started this new relationship. So you say, you've kept the agreement, but transgressed his essence. Unless you've decided to go back to your boyfriend, you're hiding essential information about their relationship.

Still, what's done is done. Like it or not, your boyfriend ventured to reach this agreement with you. Once you start an adventure you can not control the situation. Falling in love is not a choice. You say you're worried about ruining the rest of the semester: do not you excusándote? Once you know that you will not return with him, you may grieve the relationship and move on. If real time communication is not used to speak as they should, why do not you send a message to explain (as you did with me) and apologize (perhaps because it is the right thing)? Apologies express repentance; not always mean that the fault is accepted. So you could do if you think you've done nothing wrong.